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What Can’t You Do? Helping Your Child Realise What They Can Do!

Written by usadigg

How do you expand your child’s ability to create a “can do” setting?

Why is this important? Because when your child or adolescent says, “I can’t… (iss that/do that/learn that)” says it prevents it from exploring what it can do.

Hearing someone explain a restriction before a real-time skill check can be frustrating because it’s a sloppy reminder of a failure, not an imaginary success. If you think he “can’t,” accept his restriction. But trying to convince them that they “can” (they ARE, after all, capable) so often leads to a struggle that drives them into the corner of justification.

Helping children and adolescents experience more, not less, in life means that they can expand their mental map of what they can do with their brains.

This example from our program “Happy Brain” coaches a 10-year-old child through an experience that is of great value to them. Gambling is the value of the child. We call the child Joseph.

“Joseph, are you ready for more brain training tips to help you build more superpowers in the brain? Want to learn a smart, simple way to feel more confident? How about being a more confident player?”

Of course, answering this question with a “yes” question deserves congratulations, because that is an attitude that stands for the mindset of a champion.

“Can you imagine feeling stronger and more confident while playing?

Let’s do a thought experiment:

Use my PES scale 1-10 to see how you feel when you (loudly) say the following:

Measuring emotions

I CAN become a more confident player.

I WILL be a more confident player.

I WILL become a more confident player.

I’m going to be a more confident player.

Which word (IN GREAT BOOKS) gave you the most self-confidence?

Notice how these words awaken an energy in you that will move you to the decision to become a more confident player. How do you feel when you say these words?

This is important because nothing has changed in your life, just the choice of language that tells your brain what feelings will help you feel stronger, clearer and more determined.

AND the reverse is also true, let’s try another thought experiment:

Use my PES scale 1-10 to see how you feel when you (loudly) say the following:

I CAN NOT become a more confident player.

I WILL NOT be ” ” ” ” .

I WILL NOT become a ” ” ” “

I WILL NOT become a ” ” ” “

Oh, these words drive an energy that allows you to move away from the decision to become more confident. Instead, the words tell your brain to reduce your choices. How do you feel when you say these words? Which word (IN GREAT BOOKS) convinced you the least? Crazy, what? How a few little words can change your sense of motivation!

Once again, although nothing has changed in your life, only the choice of your language has made your feelings (motivation) drag towards less self-confidence.

So which words work best for you?

Now you can choose whether or not to deliberately mislead your brain from feeling confident while playing or actually in any area of your life (school, hobbies, friendships, etc.). How do you feel about it?

Try this:

I CAN practice developing my spiritual power.

I WILL practice the development of my spiritual power

I WILL practice to develop my spiritual power

I AM exercises the development of my mental power

I CAN’t practice developing my mental power

I WILL not practice developing my spiritual power

I WILL NOT practice developing my spiritual power

I do NOT practice the development of my spiritual power

Which words (IN GREAT BOOKS) help you feel the strongest motivation?

I hope you enjoyed this thought experiment. Try it with your friends at school and help them realize how strong their choice of words can be. Special agent Joseph, let me know what you are discovering!”

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